Tamil wedding rituals that celebrate the purity of love
A celebration of traditional values and customs, Tamil Hindu wedding rituals are not just about the bride and groom, but are also a grand occasion that marks the coming together of two families. The spiritual symbolism attached to Tamil weddings is what makes it unique and extravagant all at the same time. Let’s take a look at some of the interesting Tamil wedding rituals:
Sumangali Prarthanai is a lavish affair that celebrates all married women. The word sumangali refers to women who are blessed with a happy married life. In this ritual, close relatives and friends of the bride get decked up and offer prayers to the ‘Sumangalis’ and the bride-to-be to seek their blessings for a blissful married life.
Lagna Pathirikai is a simple, yet powerful Tamil wedding ritual. In this ritual, the family priest chooses an auspicious date and time for the wedding. In many ways, this ritual marks the beginning of all the wedding festivities that will soon take place! Once the date and time is finalised, the families will officially send the wedding invitations to their friends and loved ones, announcing the joyful union of their families. For your lagna pathirikai ceremony, adorn an elegant Lakshmi Haaram from the Brides of India collection by Malabar Gold & Diamonds and let your jewellery complement your grace and poise.
Panda Kaal Muhurtham
In Tamil culture, a wedding is a cause for celebration not just for the two families, but also for the entire society. As a symbol of the much-anticipated wedding that is to take place, the families of the bride and groom place a bamboo pole at the entrance of their houses. This pole is blessed by pouring a mix of water, milk, sandalwood paste and turmeric. The family elders then tie a knot over the bamboo pole using a cloth coloured in yellow or red. The auspicious bamboo pole signals to all those who see it that a wedding is soon to take place in that household. It is a symbol of pride and happiness for the entire family!
Every bride looks forward to her married life with unbridled excitement and just a hint of trepidation. The Gauri Puja is a Tamil wedding custom that the bride’s family performs to bestow a lifetime of happiness and prosperity upon the bride. This puja is an act of devotion to Gauri, the wife of Lord Shiva. Before getting ready for the wedding, the bride offers a tray filled with fruits, rice, fragrant flowers and kumkum while the family priest chants the Gauri Shankar Mantra. This puja is a wonderful way for brides to receive the blessings of their most intimate circle of loved ones. Celebrate this auspicious period with a handcrafted Divine Necklace from the Brides of India collection of Malabar Gold and Diamonds as you prepare yourself to start a new chapter in your life.
The significance of this Tamil wedding custom is to purify the mind, body and soul of two individuals before they enter marital bliss. Mangal Snaanam is a Tamil wedding ritual that happens in the early hours of the morning. The elders of the bride and groom’s family lovingly apply a mix of turmeric, kumkum and oil to the couple’s faces. This ancient mixture is the perfect treatment to help the couple glow on their special day! A hair massage is also given to the bride and groom to relieve them from stress and help them enjoy their wedding to the fullest.
This unique Tamil wedding ritual shows off the playful side of both families. Before the wedding, the groom pretends that he is leaving the marriage and traveling to Kashi to live the life of a sanyasi. The bride’s father then tries to stop him and convinces him to marry his daughter instead. The father bestows his future son-in-law with an umbrella as a symbol of his domestic responsibilities. The groom ultimately accepts and returns to his beloved, never to be parted again. Although the true meaning of the Kashi Yatra harkens back to a bygone era, it still adds a touch of humour to modern day weddings!
The kanyadanam symbolises a woman’s journey into becoming a wife. This is a very emotional and sentimental part in Tamil weddings, filled with happy tears from everyone present. In this ritual, the groom’s angavastram is tied to the end of the bride’s saree to mark the beginning of their journey as one. A coconut, the symbol of prosperity in Tamilian culture, is placed within the bride’s open palms, while her father offers her hand in marriage to his new son-in-law.
Each of these Tamil wedding rituals culminate in this most important ritual: the Muhurtham. The Muhurtham ceremony marks the union of two souls into the hold bond of matrimony. To symbolise their unbreakable bond, the groom ties a mangalsutra around his bride’s neck. There are three knots in the mangalsutra, each with their own ritual significance. The first knot stands for the loyalty the two share, the second knot stands for the unwavering commitment between them and the third marks the protection of their precious bond for life. In the background of this powerful, emotional moment, the priests chant Vedic mantras and burn the sacred fire which invoke a feeling of deep spirituality. For a traditional yet stylish Mangalsutra, try the Malabar Gold Mangalsutra which truly reflects the seven commandments of a marital bond.
Tradition and culture take centre stage in Tamil weddings. It is indeed fascinating to see how every family member has a unique role to play in one or the other Tamil wedding ritual. Are you looking to become evoke the rich traditions of Tamilian culture for your wedding? Check out the stunning Brides of India collection from Malabar Gold & Diamonds that truly celebrates the spirit of every culture and tradition in India.